Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Ferguson, Mo: Excuses Don't Fly


Lets get a few things out the way about me before diving into the meat and potatoes of my argument. I am white and I am in my mid 50's. I recently retired after a thirty year career in teaching. My parents were the first of my family to be born in the United States and while I was raised in the comfort that comes with having a father who was a doctor in a community that was mostly affluent and almost all white, I was raised to believe that the color of ones skin does not matter as much as what the person in the skin does with their life. I was the only one of eight children who was present when my father kicked his father out of the house before Sunday dinner because he refused to not abide by my dad's request to refrain from using the “N” word in the presence of his kids.

With all that said, I have to state that it is time for the excuses to end from the “black community” claiming they are not given a fair shake in this world. No one is. Some of us are born into better circumstances than others but there comes a point in life when you have to stop using your circumstances as an excuse. All parents, rich or poor, have within them the ability to support or reject the expectations of the society they raise their children in. Eventually, their children will reach a point in life when they have to stop using their circumstances as an excuse for their position in life. When the parents of Ferguson, and communities like them, have been given plenty of opportunities to advance themselves or their kids lives but choose not to, they have themselves to blame for their anger.

Over the course of thirty years of teaching, I had the honor to teach and coach kids of all ethnic backgrounds. I once taught in a small “redneck” community and had a colleague with over thirty-five years experience tell me he just got his “first colored kid” for a student. When I told him I had previously taught classes in southern California where two thirds of the students were black, he sincerely asked me how to “teach them.” When I told him to teach them “like they were white,” he realized how stupid his concern was.

I have also had my share of Hispanic, Arab, and Asian students, along with almost any other ethnic group you can think of. However, only one group, blacks, ever played the “race card” with me and claim their behavior or poor progress was my fault. When I would compare their work to their black classmates and point out how successful most others were doing, I was often surprised to see not only the student, but their parent stick to their argument.

As I write this, all hell is breaking loose in Ferguson over the police killing of Michael Brown. Was he shot by a racist cop? Not likely. Why? I can only argue that if a racist cop of any color wants to kill a young man, he is not going to do it in broad daylight on the town's main drag. He would be more apt to pick up a youth late at night while on patrol and drive to some remote spot and kill him. It does not make sense to commit a hate crime in front of Michael's peers.

It makes more sense that Michael panicked when he realized he was about to be picked up by the police after doing a strong armed robbery earlier in the day. Why is it a conspiracy to release a tape that hopefully will get the public to understand why Michael may have placed himself in a bad situation with the law? Why is it hard to believe a young man may have compounded one mistake with a worse mistake? Why is it hard to believe this young man may have felt empowered to disregard the authority of the law when we live in such a politically correct and sensitive society? Why is the cop a murderer before we know whether or not Michael may have been on something like PCP? Instead, the white cop is a murderer and the “black community” of Ferguson feel they are entitled to a form of justice not allowed under our Constitution?

Ferguson residents claim white police “over reacted” to their protests causing blacks to loot and riot so the state brings in a well qualified and respected black law enforcement officer to run the show. What happens? The community continues to riot and loot. A curfew is put in place and it is ignored while more looting and rioting goes on. Instead of bumping up the curfew from mid night to say dusk, the curfew is instead lifted and the rioting and looting continues.

When all of this is pointed out, the public is told the rioters and looters are a small minority and most are from out of town. However, the “black community” of Ferguson refuses to hand over these law breakers to the police so the trouble continues.

Tear gas and stun grenades are used to quell the disorder and the “black community” claims this is excessive on the law's part. However, when the law pleads for people to clear the area they ignore the pleads and expect to not face harsh consequences.

Meanwhile, we have plenty of other minority groups in this country who take a different approach to life in America. I can't tell you how many parents of students from other parts of the world have come to our country and sacrificed greatly so their children can take full advantage of the educational opportunities here. They keep close tabs on their children and let them know they expect them to work their hardest so they may enjoy a better life. They drill the meaning of the word respect into their children and do not make excuses for them if they perform or behave poorly in class and it's never the fault of an oppressive American government.

I also have to say that the “black community” I speak of is not representative of all blacks in our nation. Just as with other minority groups, I have had a great deal of parental support from black parents who have drilled an expectation of excellence in their children. They do not make excuses for them but rather make it clear they expect the most from their kids. However, I have seen these students ridiculed by the “black community” for being sellouts or “too white” because they choose to follow the path that increases their chances for success later in life.

The time to use ones skin color as an excuse for behavior or refusal to conform to the norms of society are over. The time to blame others because of their skin color is also over. Are there racist cops out there? Sure. There are racists everywhere and not all of them are white. However, in a community like Ferguson where blacks are an over whelming majority, they would accomplish more good by making full use of the educational opportunities afforded to them to better their lives. They can then become the cops, teachers, doctors, lawyers, architects, nurses, and business owners of Ferguson. They can control the local politics by running for office rather than running from responsibility.

The people of Ferguson, and the scores of communities big and small like them across this nation, have only themselves to blame by choosing to wait for a flash point to have an excuse to blow off their anger. The people they should be angriest with are the ones they see when they look in the mirror for failing to reinforce the American dream into their children and respecting the values of a multicultural nation that affords them the freedom to express their anger in the manner they have.

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